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Cuffing Season: What it means for dating app activity

"Cuffing season is that period of time in the late fall to winter months where people desire to bond with another individual and maybe form a relationship with them." (Getty Images)
"Cuffing season is that period of time in the late fall to winter months where people desire to bond with another individual and maybe form a relationship with them." (Getty Images)
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Love is in the air and all over the internet this time of year.

We’ve reached the peak of cuffing season—it's a real phenomenon spanning from October to February.

It's even in the dictionary.

"Cuffing season is that period of time in the late fall to winter months where people desire to bond with another individual and maybe form a relationship with them," explained Marisa T. Cohen, a relationship scientist and Marriage and Family Therapist.

When we asked dating app users about the idea, some told us they were leaning in, but some referred to the timeframe as "slow torture."

Singer SZA recently performed a song for NBC's Saturday Night Live, and the term 'cuffing season' took center stage.

There have been 1.3 million TikToks made to that song alone, and millions of others made with "applications" submitted by people looking for love.

What does cuffing season mean?

The term's meaning isn't as kinky as you might think, according to Merriam-Webster. Instead, it stems from the idea of being connected or tied to another person.

While the term is new, the concept is not.

Biologically, testosterone levels usually peak in the fall and serotonin drops in winter, creating an instinctual drive to find companionship.

And then there are the environmental factors.

"A lot of that has to do with pressure from maybe family, friends..." Cohen said, citing the awkward conversations with loved ones over the holidays where someone inevitably asks if you're seeing anyone.

Mix it all together and you get an increase of people looking for a partner—temporary or permanent—especially on dating apps.

Dating app activity spikes during cuffing season

The first few weeks of the New Year are some of the busiest on these platforms, whether people join for the first time or resume their swiping journey.

A Tinder spokesperson says their peak falls on “Dating Sunday,” which is the first Sunday of every year. Swipe activity rises 35 percent from normal.

A spokesman for the HER app tells us their new user count spikes by 15-20% in January.

We asked several dating app users why they believe this increase happens, and most responded that the culprit is loneliness.

"It's sort of like a fresh start," explained Caitlin Cantor, an individual, couples, and sex therapist.

She says this is the time where more people are looking for human connection.

A new dating app launching in San Antonio is making that their specialty.

'Mingle Mapp' dating site focuses on in-person matchmaking

"We're helping users also connect in person, which is something that other dating apps don't do, as well as helping find that right match," said Jessica Holguin, the product manager for Mingle Mapp.

Holguin and Hilal Hibri are on the team that created Mingle Mapp.

It's a dating program based on your location, allowing users to meet in real life at public places to decide whether they could be a match.

"You have the advantages of the digital, but still get to have that face-to-face connection," Hibri said.

The idea is for people to meet at Mingle hubs and turn on their availability if they're open to someone approaching them for a consensual conversation.

Users are in full control of when this information is shared, Holguin says.

"The idea is that people can meet casually without having to plan out all the logistics for a date, and have short mingling without the commitment of a whole night of dating so that you might be able to mingle with a few different people," Hibri said.

Mingle Mapp will have safety features built in, the founders tell us.

Experts stress safety no matter what dating site you may be using.

"Let someone know where you're going, be in touch with someone about it. Don't give away too much personal information at first," Cantor said. "And I think it's important no matter what to go slowly. As you develop relationships, you really can't know someone deeply and connect deeply immediately."

Escaping un-cuffed

Dating apps aren't for everyone, so we asked our experts for some tips if you aren't on the market this cuffing season.

"To combat feelings of loneliness, the best thing is to reach out and form connections with others," Cohen said. "Now, that doesn't have to be a romantic relationship...reach back out to friends that you haven't spoken with in a while and start there. You can network meet new work colleagues. Forming those connections, whether romantic or platonic, can really help you."

But if you do want to try dating apps, experts say there's no shame in that.

"I think it's important to think about whether or not there's other work to be done around the loneliness," Cantor said. "You can do those at the same time, you can go on the apps and try to meet someone, and also work on dealing with past issues or things that go along with that."

Whether you're looking for love or flying solo, whether you're on the apps or meeting people the old fashioned, way, experts want you to know, your experience is valid.

There's no shame in wanting a relationship. There's no shame in being lonely," Cantor said. "It actually doesn't mean that you're desperate. It just means that you're human. We all want connection.

We asked you about cuffing season on Facebook and got some mixed reactions.

Some people were in the process of signing up for dating apps, while others like Jessica said, "No thank you, I bite and I have rabies... No cuffing for me ever."

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